The phrase “is just not into you” is something that we all hate. Mostly, because it’s true when it happens– even when we are living in complete denial about it. Especially for women this phrase is more annoying. He disappears for days at a time and then texts you the sweetest message you’ve ever received. He says he really cares about you, but doesn’t really act like it. If he’s not calling you, it’s not because he is too busy or he is shy but it’s because he doesn’t like you

He gives you excuses why he didn’t call you. He’s busy, he’s stressed at work, he has a million things going on. If he’s into you, it doesn’t matter how busy he is, he’ll take EVERY second in a day to reach out to you, even if it’s just to send a quick text. If a guy says he’ll call you tomorrow and then doesn’t call until two or three days later, it means you’re just not a priority to him and he’s neither here nor there. If a guy is into you, he’ll call when he says he will.

Waits too long to set up a second date. If you go out with a guy and he makes no indication of ever wanting to see you again, or he waits a few days to call (it’s one thing to do this after the first date, quite another to keep doing it after the second, third, or fourth), it means he’s on the fence about you and isn’t really feeling it. If a man is into you, he’ll make it known that he wants another date. He might mention other date ideas he has for the two of you.

You haven’t been introduced to his friends. No, it’s not that he wants to keep you all to himself. Be honest with yourself. When he likes you, he’s going to want to show you off and see what his friends think about you. By introducing you to his friends, who are presumably a big part of his life, it shows that he wants to include you in all aspects of his life. If he doesn’t have an interest in you, he won’t have an interest in talking to you.